Just Sayin'

Did alot of social things this weekend, but i’m not a very social person so it just wore me out. What to say, what to do, do you hug this person, or shake their hand, try to make a joke or try to have a serious conversation, try to think of some small talk and how to carry a conversation past a few statements about the weather.. I think i’m to use to being a bit of a hermit. I don’t know how its so easy for people.

This whole day has slipped by rewiring some old electronics and listening to documentaries i’ve watched dozens of times all the while not looking forward to going back to cubical land tommorow. The next two months are going to be a mad dash to getting the house in order after roomates move out, getting ready for my bridal shower although it seems that only 3 people are coming so far out of 30+ (big ego booster there) getting packed for our own move downtown, and then getting the rest of the details together for the wedding while trying to slim down somehow. Should be interesting. 

Against bullying? repost!

There is no reason to put up with workplace abuse. Report those that try to bully you, demean you, belittle you, sabotage you, and cause lasting emotional damage due to their own selfishness and controlling issues. Coworkers or management being abusive shouldn’t be expected, if you have an HR, or a supervisor above the person abusing you, start filing complaints now to establish a trail and to show the pattern of abuse. Bullying doesn’t stop at the school yard.

Types of Work abuse:
1. Threat to professional status - including belittling opinions, public professional humiliation, accusations regarding lack of effort, intimidating use of discipline or competence procedures

2. Threat to personal standing - including undermining personal integrity, destructive innuendo and sarcasm, making inappropriate jokes about target, persistent teasing, name calling, insults, intimidation

3. Isolation - including preventing access to opportunities, physical or social isolation, withholding necessary information, keeping the target out of the loop, ignoring or excluding

4. Overwork - including undue pressure, impossible deadlines, unnecessary disruptions.

5. Destabilization - including failure to acknowledge good work, allocation of meaningless tasks, removal of responsibility, repeated reminders of blunders, setting target up to fail, shifting goal posts without telling the target